I came across this video on Slam Magazine’s website and thought it was magnificent. Without a doubt Kobe Bryant will go down in history as one of the five greatest players in NBA history. This video looks back at Kobe being drafted into the NBA as a skinny 17 year old and provides the commentary of many NBA greats and journalist drooling over his game. It is definitely a great watch, check it out!
Yesterday the Associated Press reported the tragic death of R&B/Pop star Whitney Houston. Houston was only 48 years old and the cause of her seemingly untimely death has yet to be determined. While her body of work and overall talent has never been questioned, Houston ran into some personal problems that included a tumultuous marriage to R&B singer Bobby Brown and a struggle with addiction that was well documented in the early 2000s.
One of the early signs of Houston’s decline was in 2000 when her mentor Clive Davis was being inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame. Houston was scheduled to perform but failed to show up. Another low point for Houston came when she was fired from a scheduled Academy Awards performance in 2000. Then came the ABC Diane Sawyer when she admitted to some substance abuse but proclaimed that “crack is wack”.
Many Houston fans blamed her substance abuse and decline on her over the top husband and believed that the church girl from Newark had been corrupted.
While the emphasis this weekend has been placed on Houston’s accomplishments and the inspiration she is some of the most successful singers out right now, it is impossible to ignore the personal turmoil she experienced. The blind eye we are turning to her tough times this weekend is probably the blind eye we turned to her troubles as they were developing. All too often industry heads are more concerned with the product and not the person. Which is why it is important that we focus on the whole person this weekend.
Even though Houston was an international superstar she was also a human with flaws like all of us. So while we play her music and honor her at the Grammy’s tonight let’s remember that she was no different than any of us and we ever go through any of same trials that there someone around to make we do not fall too far.
Alert! Alert! Ladies, not all men are Lifetime movie villains and dogs.
Now that that’s out-of-the-way, its time that women realize that there are more good guys in the world than bad ones. All too often a group of women can be spotted discussing their less than stellar experiences with certain men. The stories are usually about womanizers, liars, cheap skates, broke guys, dumb guys and users. While the stories may be true, and the experience may have been horrible, it is not healthy to assume that all men are cut from the Tiger Woods cloth.
Women that assume all men are bad usually have a hard time appreciating a good one. The inability to trust or properly treat a good man will usually lead to that man leaving pretty quickly. And while a woman who has dated a lot of bad men has the right to have her guard up, you would think she would have learned something about the nine bad men she dated before she agreed to go out with the tenth.
Most women do not deserve the treatment they receive from some men and should develop the ability to sense the game men play. Especially after dealing with it a few times before. The ability to identify an undercover Kobe Bryant will also help a woman to realize when she is approached by a gentlemen. Women who make it known that they require respect and honesty from the men they date will scare off the bad guys and attract the good ones.
Woman must also learn to appreciate a good man once they find one. This appreciation includes use of the inside voice, trust, affection and keeping things exciting when no one else is around (wink wink). A woman who falls short in this department opens herself up to being replaced. It takes a lot of work to please and stimulate a good woman and that same effort should go to showing a good man that he is better than the rest.
The moral of this story is to not judge a book by its cover, at least read the prologue to determine if you would like to read the rest of the book. And if you do like the outcome, do things to and for your man that he knows he cannot get anywhere else.