Self Preservation for the Self-Less

Posted on

The most fortunate of us get to see our parents always put their needs to the back burner for us. Their sacrifice prepares us for a successful future and sets a great example. The kids that are aware and appreciative of these self less acts take this approach into their future relationships. As we grow into adults with established senses of our strengths and weaknesses, we use partners/friends to compensate for both. For people we care about/love we use our strengths to help them with their weaknesses and rely on their strength to get us through our tough times. This only works if a balance exists regrading the level of sacrifice each party chooses to exercise.

The sacrifices made do not necessarily have to always be equal. In most relationships (romantic, friendship, brother, sister, etc.) one party is stronger than the other. This strength comes as a persons ability to see the bigger picture when times get tough in a relationship. This strength comes as a persons ability to step up or step back if needed. The most important job of the strong person in any relationship is to make sure the “weaker” person never actual feels weak while they are together.

The strong person in any relationship has a lot of responsibilities. However, this person must also be strong enough to take care of themselves. All too often we get caught up in making sure everything/everyone around us doing well while putting our own needs to the back burner.

Finding a balance in this situation is extremely tough but necessary. No one can fully support another person without supporting themselves.

While it is easy to draw strength from strong people, the main challenge is finding strength in ourselves. The best way to do this is to take note of all the ways you have already had to be strong. Whether it was strength in a professional or personal setting, it all matters. We can all draw strength from times we decided to step up or step back. It takes immense strength to walk away from things that we know cause us pain and halt our progress. It also takes strength to step up and be accountable for past mistakes.

All in all we cannot forget to take care of selves. And anyone who truly cares about you, will not let you forget that.



Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s